Just came across this status someone posted on FB,
“Think I should stop being nice to people as most of the time people take it for granted. Being taken for granted is not a nice feeling to be honest. In any kind of relationships, there should be a good balance. Be it friendship, love relationship, kinship, teacher & student relationship, employer & employee relationship. As the saying goes, it takes two hands to clap. The person giving will eventually be tired if the receiving end is always taking. One day, the person giving will disappear eventually and say goodbye. People always regret whenever they lose something or someone but it will be too late by then. So, take a moment, remember and appreciate the people around you. Do not take things or anyone for granted.”
It got me thinking.
Do you do nice things to people to get rewarded (in this case, the feeling of being recognized or not taken for granted) or do you do nice things simply because you are a nice person?
A nice person does nice things regardless of responses.
I actually don’t remember when was the last time I did something nice without wanting to be rewarded with good feelings, a smile or a “thank you”. Do you?
Elisha Tan is the Founder of TechLadies. TechLadies is a community for women in Asia to connect, learn, and advance as programmers in the tech industry. Elisha is also the Developer Programs Regional Lead for Asia Pacific at Facebook.